But what are some signs that you are a good romantic fit? Whether you’re still in the «talking» stage or have officially defined the relationship, you might be curious about what makes a couple compatible. Well, there is no one answer. The key is finding a partner whose personality and essence match up with yours. And, when there are areas where you and your partner’s personalities and habits diverge — say, you’re a homebody but your partner is an avid club-goer, or the two of you have different dietary restrictions due to your different religions — hopefully you’re both willing to make a few compromises.
Dr. Joshua Klapow, clinical psychologist and host of podcast The Kurre and Klapow Show, defines romantic compatibility as «the degree to which each person’s view of love, intimacy, and attraction (and the expression of these experiences) work together for mutual benefit.» Likewise, Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, says romantic compatibility happens when two people are «equally attracted to each other.» But more than feeling butterflies and being emotionally intimate, romantic compatibility happens when you’re both «on the same page about where you want the relationship to go,» Trombetti explains.
Here are some more things to keep in mind if you’re trying to make sure you and your boo are romantically compatible.
Having the same sexual desires and romantic expectations can be super important
This means that your sex drives are aligned and if not, you’re both devoted to finding solutions to address that. If one partner is interested in kink, hopefully the other is, too (or at least willing to try).
When it comes to romance, it’s all about the little things, like doing activities you two can enjoy together. This gets to the heart of romantic compatibility the way Jessmina «Minaa B.» Archbold, psychotherapist, social worker, and author of Rivers Are Coming: Essays and Poems on Healing, defines it. Continue reading «Here’s What Really Makes A Couple Compatible, According To Experts»